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I live in suburban Detroit, but this phenomenon is playing out elsewhere in the country, too -- a telling example of the indifference with which young people today view dating, chivalry and romance.
Studies, of course, show more young people skipping romantic relationships in favor of "hooking up." As teens socialize in packs, forgo one-on-one dating and trade sex nonchalantly, it is no stretch to find that boys are asking girls to homecoming and not bothering to take them there. But with so many young people ignoring once-sacrosanct dating rites, how can we respond?
At some schools, students are boycotting dances to protest bans on sexually suggestive "freak dancing." At others, dances are just falling out of favor. Southeast High School in Wichita, Kan., canceled its homecoming dance last February after just 27 tickets were sold, half to members of the homecoming court. At Cardinal O'Hara High School in Springfield, Pa., class of '06 homecoming queen Cathy Caramanico never got her big moment at the dance. It was called off due to lack of interest.
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Many teens today prefer to gather in someone's basement because it's easier to pair off in dark corners. "There aren't as many chaperones in basements as at dances," says Ms. Caramanico.
Meanwhile, 60% of 125 college students in a new study by Michigan State University have had a sexual "friends with benefits" relationship. Nine out of 10 "hookups" didn't lead to dating relationships, the study found. More ominously, after casual sex, females are more likely than males to show symptoms of depression, according to a study reported last year in the Journal of Sex Research.
"Young women are longing for romance," says Laura Sessions Stepp, author of "Unhooked: How Young Women Pursue Sex, Delay Love and Lose at Both." She interviewed girls who considered it empowering to be dismissive of romance and casual about sex. Later, many were beset with regrets.
Obviously, boys no longer have to call girls on Wednesday for a Saturday date. Now, college boys seeking weekend hookups send girls "U busy?" text messages at 2 or 3 a.m., and girls routinely rouse themselves and go, according to Ms. Stepp's research. Many girls spend the next day clutching their cellphones, waiting in vain for the boy to call.
While visiting a high school students in McLean, Va., Ms. Stepp was approached by four girls seeking advice. They wanted to start a "dating club." "These were gorgeous girls," she says. "I told them to print up T-shirts: 'Ask me for a date.' "
The software developer, gamer and futsal goalie died aged 33 in the attack in New Zealand.
Dating is where two people who are attracted to each other spend time together to see if they also can stand to be around each other most of the time, if this is successful they develop a relationship, although sometimes a relationship develops ...
室內五人制足球（Futsal）或又稱為室內足球，是國際足總正式認可的足球比賽型式，名字取自葡萄牙語futebol de salão及西班牙語fútbol sala或fútbol de salón，意思是「房間足球」。
室內五人制足球由兩隊對賽，每隊五人中一人為守門員；此外各隊可以有數位後備球員。與其他形式的室內足球比較，futsal的場地以畫線為界，而非皮球可以回彈的網或板。
其他的室內足球有不同的規則，名稱有indoor football，five-a-side football（室內五人制足球）或indoor soccer。這些形式在室內足球正式訂立規則前已出現。
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