Greg Walton and Carol Dweck write in The New York Times: When people believe that willpower is fixed and limited, their willpower is easily depleted. But when people believe that willpower is self-renewing — that when you work hard, you’re energized to work more; that when you’ve resisted one temptation, you can better resist the next one — then people successfully exert more willpower. It turns out that willpower is in your head.
The research suggests that giving ourselves a break and accepting our imperfections may be the first step toward better health. People who score high on tests of self-compassion have less depression and anxiety, and tend to be happier and more optimistic. Preliminary data suggest that self-compassion can even influence how much we eat and may help some people lose weight.
This idea does seem at odds with the advice dispensed by many doctors and self-help books, which suggest that willpower and self-discipline are the keys to better health. But Kristin Neff, a pioneer in the field, says self-compassion is not to be confused with self-indulgence or lower standards.
giving s/b a break
1. Give someone a chance or special consideration. For example, She begged the professor for an extension on her term paper, saying "Please give me a break." [c. 1900] Also see get a break.
2. give me a break. Stop trying to fool or upset or bother me. For example, Don't tell me the party's been postponed again--give me a break! This interjection is usually uttered with semihumorous exasperation. [Slang; late 1900s]
willpower
or will pow·er (wĭl'pou'ər)
n.
The strength of will to carry out one's decisions, wishes, or plans.
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